Showing posts with label Gretchen Rubin. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Gretchen Rubin. Show all posts

Monday, April 28, 2025

Rediscovering

Gretchen Rubin and Liz have talked about going back to things you once loved on their podcast. 


They specifically mentioned that activities loved as a kid, might be worth rediscovering. 


This is not something I would have noticed/realized if they had not mentioned it. 

I looked for the podcast that talks about this in detail. I did not find it, but I found others I really enjoyed -


https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/a-little-happier-when-do-i-feel-the-joyous-childhood-feeling-of-expectancy/


https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast/little-happier-children-arent-wasting-their-time/












PS - is the inverse of this also true? Avoid things hated as a child? Or do we change and grow into them? 

Thursday, February 06, 2020

Miss and a hit

Gretchen or Elizabeth mentioned both of these podcasts.

Gretchen did warn that the first one would not be for everything and she was right. It was not a hit with me.

ADDED LATER: It turns out, this is a staged bit/routine that the radio show writes and then dramatizes. That explains a lot. And it makes me feel better. So it is not irresponsible as I first thought. Instead it is just stupid. . .


I felt several of these could easily turn into bad stalker situations. I could not stand the laugh track guy in background. So I listened to several on Tuesday and then deleted the whole thing.




I loved Dani Shapiro’s book and I also like her voice and the quality of the podcast editing. Diverse stories. Enjoying it so far.



I wondered how Dani tracked down the family secret guests. In the beginning, first of her podcasts, they have a book or a documentary or are a speaker. This is a bonus. If the story is of interest, can track down the person for a more in-depth story. For example, Steve Lickteig’s Open Secret and Lacey Schwartz’s Little White Lies are both on Amazon Prime. I can see from the titles that once she got going with her podcast, she started hearing from listeners and airing their stories.

Wednesday, January 22, 2020

Wild Game



I am looking forward to Gretchen interviewing the author on her Happiness podcast, Gretchen wrote:
“Adrienne Brodeur will join me in the studio in New York City to talk to us about the book, and we'll air that episode on February 5, 2020. So get reading!”

I listened to this book on Audible. The narrator was very good. There is a bonus interview at the end between the author and narrator.

I also listened to
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/otherppl-with-brad-listi/id472152554?i=1000456693820
AFTER I finished the book. I enjoyed that podcast, but it had too much detail/spoilers for a before-read listen, in my opinion.

I did enjoy this book very much.  In my opinion the writing was very good. And it was very thoughtful. It was definitely different. Generations of dysfunction.

To be honest, I was not sure until Chapter 18 that I liked it. I was afraid it was a little too ABC network TV for me for a while. The author pulled it off in the end. The last three hours (listening on audible) were excellent. And it did have to have the story to get there. I am sure there are others who might like the story better than the ending.

The author feels like she is the line in the sand (breaking the cycle). I hope so.

FYI - The author and her mother and father have their real names in the book. Everyone else, the names have been changed. The author does not have a wiki page. Her father does, with his literary work, but no family is linked to it.

I very much want (author’s stepmother) Margo’s book list!

Monday, August 12, 2019

I am trying to catch him before he hits 1000

SideHustleSchool by Chris Guillebeau is a short daily podcast. I would guess he averages under 10 minutes (each day) most of the time. He does a special longer version occasionally.

I did not start listening to SideHustle podcast when he launched on 1/1/2017, instead I began listening to his archives, starting with the first one/in chronological order, early this summer.

I downloaded all of them to my phone.  So there have been hundreds of SideHustle podcasts in my queue, all summer. I saw that as a positive, a fun summer thing.

I enjoy him very much. I like his voice, his humor, his personality and his education.  I have not decided to start a home based business, I am listening because of the variety of topics. All kinds of gift ideas and interesting concepts.

So all summer long, when I was caught up on my other podcasts, I always had Chris Guillebeau available.

As of this moment, I am on SideHustle podcast #750 which he recorded January 2019. So I am in the current year (yeah!) and headed toward the home stretch. He recorded #954 today, I am hoping to be current before he hits 1000.

If you are wondering about the math, 1000 - 750 = 250 / 46 = about 5 1/2 podcasts a day, which is usually under an hour. Very doable even if I only listen when I am out walking dogs.

But when I am current, I will really have accomplished something fun and educational and current, this summer.

Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Lisa Brennan Jobs' memoir Small Fry.

Lisa Brennan Jobs' memoir Small Fry.

This is the second book in the Podcast Book Club by Gretchen and her sister Elizabeth.

The first book:
Dani Shapiro's Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love.

There is a podcast, with Dani participating, which discusses her book:
https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast-episode/212-dani-shapiro-inheritance/

Okay, I have to say, so far they are doing an outstanding job in picking books. Both of these are books that were totally new to me, not something I would have found on my own, and I enjoyed both of them hugely.

Next week, I think, Lisa will be a guest on their Happiness podcast and they will discuss the book.

I listened to both books on audible.

Tuesday, May 21, 2019

My current podcasts

Do the Thing with Melissa Urban (not all topics are whole 30 related)

Gretchen and Elizabeth (Happier)

Liz and Sarah (Happier in Hollywood)

The Moth

And I am still on This American Life app listening to their archives in order.

Sunday, March 31, 2019

Books with clean-out topic

Outer Order, Inner Calm (audio book)  by Gretchen Rubin came out a few weeks ago.

When a new season of a TV series comes out, especially if there is a long break between seasons, I often rewatch all the previous seasons before the newest one. So I get a lot of bang with a new season. BBC seasons for example might only be 4-8 shows long. Just watching the new season is a flash in the pan. Watching all of the seasons in order, refreshes my memory, gets me in the groove, creates anticipation, and makes it an event.

I did the same thing with Gretchen’s new book. I relistened to all the previous books from her happiness series first. When I finished all the old ones, I listened to the new one. I REALLY re-enjoyed all the old books. The new one too. It was short, but good. It was a bit like a longer podcast.

Then I listened  The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondō. I had watched the series on Netflix, but had not read the book. It was good, but I wondered about her childhood the whole time. OCD? I realize it is a different culture, but it seems like something was not quite right. There are good suggestions in both the TV series and the book. I disagree with a lot of things she says, but in a mild way.  Both (book and TV series)  are good, worth the time, but I spent most of my thought process (of the book) in the psychology rather than the tidying.

Then I listed to The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Free Yourself and Your Family from a Lifetime of Clutter Book by Margareta Magnusson. Also good. Written by an old lady whose has cleaned several family homes due to death or downsizing. I did not dwell on the psychological. I enjoyed the pace and the stories.

It might be an age thing, or the fact that I did not have to clean out either grandparent set. And I have no messes in my future. My husband and his brothers did their parents. My brother will do my father. My mother has already done as much as she can. Things that go to other people are already to them.




I listed to all these audio books as I walked dogs, cleaned the kitchen, sewed. Ear buds thru my phone.

The cleaning aspect of these books - I enjoyed all of them in a low key way.

BUT they all pitch way too much.

I wish they would have used the terms rehome or recycle or repurpose 100% of the time.

There is very little that actually needs pitched.

Wednesday, February 13, 2019

Gretchen and Elizabeth book club - Dani Shapiro's Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love.

https://gretchenrubin.com/podcast-episode/207-go-to-the-doctor

That link will take you to the podcast where this book selection was announced. And the show notes will also give you the dates for their activities including an author visit.

I listened to  Dani Shapiro's Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love on Audible.

It is non fiction. Read by the author. And very well written. Really enjoyed it.

Saturday, July 28, 2018

Gretchen, great list

https://gretchenrubin.com/2018/07/25-secrets-of-adulthood-that-ive-learned-the-hard-way

Friday, September 08, 2017

Head shots - proactive and also would make a great gift

I looked briefly for it, but no luck.

On either Happier in Hollywood (Elizabeth and Sarah)

or on Gretchen and Elizabeth's original podcast,

Elizabeth was talking about the importance of having headshots.

She was suggesting everyone having up to date, professional headshots always ready. And she is talking about a professional photographer. Professional headshots.

We are talking about a resume/application/professional media quality picture of ones self.



The one oldest is using right now is actually from the wedding we attended in Alaska last year. It was taken by a professional photographer btw.

There was a great picture of him in his tux with a bow tie. GREAT picture. It was actually a picture of the two of us. He cropped himself and photoshopped out the background. And that is what he has been using.



For a couple years youngest was using a rejected high school year book picture. It was rejected because she was in a sleeveless blouse. It happened to be a great picture.

This week she called looking for it. I found it in the picture files in our house computer, easily because the files are very organized.

But it is now too dated. Her hair was long then. She has matured in last couple years.



When we see her next weekend (a week from now), we are going to take more pictures. DIY. Because she needs one now.

College takes them, at career days fair, for free, but her class schedule is too full to deal with the line that is always there.

When we get closer to college graduation, I absolutely would consider having professional ones taken. NOTE - that would be a very good graduation gift for kids in your family.



Middle gets a yearbook picture taken every year at her school. And she takes a lot of pictures, so she always has candids. Her boy has lots of good ones because they are dressed up a lot and she always takes pictures or has someone else take them. This is a couple with a large volume of pictures.. Youngest and oldest, not so much.



While I was digging thru picture files yesterday, for youngest,  I sent her other good pictures of herself. Candids which could be cropped and used in different circumstances.

For example, there is a great one of her with the neighbor dog. If she needed a warm fuzzy candid picture for something informal, it would be great.

And there were several pictures with youngest and middle that could be cropped. The problem is the backgrounds. They are not plain backgrounds.

Oldest's picture had Alaska in background (outdoors in Juno) which you would have thought would have been okay, but was not. When the picture was tightly cropped, the background became odd.



I sent a note to someone yesterday saying here is another high school/college/life hint - when you or daughter are dressed up or even just having a good hair and makeup day, have someone take pictures in front of a plain background. And then keep those pictures in a special file (email, pc, phone) so you have them. Do it regularly so you have them and they are up to date.

Monday, July 31, 2017

I preordered Gretchen Rubin's new book. Audible version on Amazon using one of my Audible credits. I bought three extra credits to have an extra one and get the book for less $$$. Four of us use my audible account/library. I got the bonus videos but have not yet watched them.

http://happiness-project.us1.list-manage.com/track/click?u=b4bb6f56200fe4fe93f580bf3&id=4f805bf50a&e=d272bac3c9

This is her fourth book. It is sort of a series.

She started with happiness, then happiness at home, then habits, and now tendencies.  

I have all four of these titles on Audible. Three already in my library. The fourth, which will be released in September is a pending preorder. The preorder gave me access to a video series Gretchen did. Have not yet watched those.

I listen to her podcasts while I walk.

I plan to relisten to the first three books before diving into the fourth in September. 

I am not sure any of my kids have listened to Gretchen's series.  It is a good series for anyone.


Sunday, October 16, 2016

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Gretchen's new book, on habits, is available for preorder

The names of the book is Better than Before.

It is available for preorder which really helps Gretchen.

I have been reading about Gretchen's thoughts on habits, for months, as she has been writing. Very good.

You know how I feel about habits - forming good ones to support our lives, nipping self destructive ones in the bud, setting up proactive ones for our families.

She is not a weightloss person, but all she writes is applicable to getting one's life together, and in my opinion, good health/weight/food conditions are part of a life well lived.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Trying to stay awake in order to fall asleep

Paradoxical Intention***. I thought - I have pretty good power of focus. I am worried I could make myself stay awake for hours. And then I thought - self do not think you are smarter than the questionnaire or the field of study. Self - Do not think you are the exception. Self - Try it."

***Is this where your mind went? Did you say to yourself - please don't anyone go out and buy a truck load of their food drug of choice thinking they will stare it down in the name of paradoxical intention. That would not be the right name, it would be self sabotage or self enabling or denial. I say that with a smile and I know there are those of you, reading, whose minds went the same way. But I have SEEN that type of paradoxical intention in blog land before. In book land and TV show land too. Can you take an alcoholic and have them stare down an alcohol warehouse? It is the same thing to me.


What brought this back to mind is this post, Suffer from Insomnia? Try this Counter-Intuitive Trick, when it popped in my email inbox earlier this week.

Yes, I left Gretchen a note about Viktor Frankl.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Monday, February 04, 2013

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

My books - Emma (1815) by Jane Austen (1 of 2 posts today)

“Ah! There is nothing like staying home for real comfort.” 
Jane Austen

I had just finished Emma when this post mentioning Pride and Prejudice caught my eye.

What stayed with me (from that post) was the concept of knowing one is happy without feeling outright happy at key points in our lives. It is a short but interesting post on happiness.



Yes, Emma was a reread for me.

My husband and I had both read this book for college, the same instructor in fact. This was a flamboyant professor who professed his love for Emma at every opportunity. If Helen ever had him, she will remember immediately. We all graduated in 1983, so it was at least 30 years ago we read this book. As I read, bits and pieces of the plot came back to me. My husband had no memory of the details of the book and even needed a character list to keep everyone straight as he first listened. I think there were about 23 on that list.

Husband did not care for Emma 30 years ago. And honestly he did not care for it now either. 30 years ago he thought he did not like it because the professor was so over the moon about it that no book could have lived up to expectations.

Now he did not care for it because he felt all the characters talked too much. He was actually surprised I liked it.

I went into Emma just after finishing Catch 22, so Emma was very welcomed at that point. In Cold Blood might have been very welcomed at that point.



I remembered liking Emma 30 years ago.

I thought I would not like it the second time around.

I thought knowing the general outcome of the book (in advance) was going to ruin it for me.

It did not.

Laura mentioned (long ago in a comment) that as a literature major in college, there was a design of study that revealed the plot of books in advance so the writing style/composition could be analysed as one read. So, the professor told them the general plot of the book before they read it for class. And then as they read, they analyzed the author's process/style.

I had this experience with Emma. I think I noticed a lot more because I knew what was coming. I enjoyed the process. I think I might have liked it better the second time around, I enjoyed/caught the nuances more.



I have read all of Jane Austen's books. I have read Pride and Prejudice and now Emma twice as I had read them long ago and then reread when they came up on recent book review group lists.

If I had not already read all of them, I would be suggesting the other titles for book group reading lists. I would want to have read them all.

I love her books, our girls love her books. Oldest has read at least Pride and Prejudice (for a class) and loved it too.



There is a woman in one of my book review groups who always talks about the subtle humor in books. She will mark certain passages in books, read them aloud to the group, and talk about the subtle humor. She is really helping me in my reading as I am catching the subtle inferences of authors more readily. I think - there is a Chris moment - each time I hit one. It has really helped me grow in my reading. I had that experience (a lot) while reading Emma this second time. And I kept thinking - wonder if Chris will mention that one - before I remembered I was reading it for my other reading group - Chris will not be there.



I think Jane Austen is a good example of subtle. These are not merely 'girl books', these are social context books (in my opinion).


Context Section from SparkNotes:
Jane Austen, whom some critics consider England’s best novelist, was born in 1775 in Steventon, England. The seventh of eight children, Austen lived with her parents for her entire life, first in Steventon and later in Bath, Southampton, and Chawton. Her father was the parish rector in Steventon, and, though not wealthy, her family was well connected and well educated. Austen briefly attended boarding school in Reading but received the majority of her education at home. According to rumor, she had a brief love affair when she was twenty-five, but it did not lead to a marriage proposal. Two years later she accepted and then quickly rejected a proposal. She remained unmarried for the rest of her life. Austen died in 1817, at age forty-one, of Addison’s disease.

Austen began writing stories at a very young age and completed her first novel in her early twenties. However, she did not publish until 1811, when Sense and Sensibility appeared anonymously, -followed by Pride and Prejudice (1813) and Mansfield Park (1814). Emma, which appeared in 1816, was the last novel published -during Austen’s lifetime. (Northanger Abbey and Persuasion appeared posthumously.)

Austen’s novels received little critical or popular recognition during her lifetime, and her identity as a novelist was not revealed until after her death. As admired as Austen’s novels later became, critics have had a difficult time placing them within literary history. She is known for her gently satirical portraits of village life and of the rituals of courtship and marriage, but she wrote during the Romantic period, when most major writers were concerned with a very different set of interests and values. Romantic poets confronted the hopes and failures of the French Revolution and formulated new literary values centered on individual freedom, passion, and intensity. In comparison, Austen’s detailed examination of the rules of decorum that govern social relationships, and her insistence that reason and moderation are necessary checks on feeling, make her seem out of step with the literary times. One way to understand Austen’s place in literary history is to think of her as part of the earlier eighteenth century, the Age of Reason, when literature was associated with wit, poise, and propriety. Her novels certainly belong to an eighteenth-century genre, the comedy of manners, which examines the behavior of men and women of a single social class.

Rather than dismiss Austen as a writer who shuns the artistic and political movements of her time, it is perhaps more useful to think of her as an early feminist. Critics have pointed out that the Romantics, who were almost exclusively male, offered a poor model of literary fulfillment for the ambitious woman of the time. While male writers such as Percy Bysshe Shelley and Lord Byron possessed the freedom to promote their own individuality through wide travel and sexual and military adventurism, women were largely denied these freedoms. For women, the penalty for sexual freedom was social ostracism, poverty, and worse. In Sense and Sensibility, Austen describes explicitly the danger that cultivating emotion posed for women of her time.

In this social context, Austen’s commitment to reason and moderation can be seen as feminist and progressive rather than conservative. The intelligence and resourcefulness of her heroines stand in constant contrast to the limits of the constricted world of courtship and marriage defining their sphere of action. While reading Emma it is interesting to consider to what extent Austen accepts or questions the idea that marriage represents a woman’s maturity and fulfillment.

Some consider Emma Austen’s best and most representative novel. It is also her longest novel, and by many accounts, her most difficult. Long praised for its rich domestic realism, Emma also presents puzzling questions: how can a character as intelligent as Emma be wrong so often? When does Austen expect us to sympathize with Emma, and when does she expect us to criticize her? Is the ending as genuinely happy as it is presented to be, or does Austen subtly inject a note of subversive irony into it? That these questions are on some level unanswerable ensures that Emma will be read again and again.


If you are wondering about my husband - he kept with the book, and liked it well enough by the end (he said the second half was better), but it certainly will never be a favorite. And he is not itching to read another Austen.

He watched Emma with Gwyneth Paltow. He loved the movie. He thought it was very funny and well done.

A couple people in the group watched the BBC version of Emma (there are at least two and the more recent one is better in my opinion).


After the meeting the facilitator and I were talking -
The facilitator of the group is male, heterosexual, youngish, and very well read. He had never read any of Austen's work before Emma. And he loved it. He said he had to read it at a much slower pace and really think to catch the humor.

I told him I think that is one advantage I have in listening to the books. The pace for reading out loud/listening is MUCH slower than the pace for reading text. Much slower (I read very quickly). By listening, I am forced to a yoga like state of reading. My iPod has a feature where I can adjust the pace (slow, normal, fast, very fast).

I usually listen on normal.

I have a book I am just starting (Age of Innocence (1920) by Edith Wharton)  where there is something off about the reader. It is a volunteer reader through USF Lit2Go. Normally their readers are very good. I am going to try a slower pace to see if that helps. If not, no harm in buying from Audible sometime (I watch the sales), as it was a free download from USF Lit2Go.

I also have Siddhartha (1922) by Herman Hesse with a dreadful reader. This was a very inexpensive (maybe $2) download from Audible. I bought it before I understood the importance of listening to a sample of the reader's style before downloading. There was a reason it was on sale! If I end up rebuying a different version, no harm. But I am going to try a slower pace to see if that helps the very speedy reader sound.





Sunday, September 09, 2012

All things Gretchen

Gretchen's New Book has hit the shelves.

Here is Gretchen's Appearance Listing. If she happens to hit your city, I think she would be a fun speaker. If you attend one, please leave a note and let me know.